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Ask A Clairvoyant

You are welcome to ask a question to our clairvoyants.Three questions will be answered each month, first directly to you then published on W2W. The answers will be channeld directly from spirit to give you the most postive options to help you.

The reason we are offering this to you all is because women need to process and stay in touch with their feminine instincts and when we process (or talk) we support ourselves. One of the most important things we need to do as women is process to understand how we feel as this helps give confirmation and get informed to make better decisions.

Women are designed to process with other woman, which is why coffees and mother and baby groups happen, as women love getting together. You know what it is like when many women get together the energy is high and can also be a lot of fun and support.

You can read below the questions and answers for the February, March and April issues and don't forget to write for the next release of Ask a Clairvoyant as we will reply to three questions each month.

For those of you that were unsuccessful in a reply, you are welcome to try again or get in touch with us for a personal reading request.

Remember if have a burning question for consideration, just email talk@pretoriamay.com (with "Ask A Clairvoyant" in the subject line) and one of our clairvoyants will do our very best to answer your questions.

We never publish names or email addresses and we completely respect everyone's privacy.

Jump to a Month:

• February 2009
• March 2009
• April 2009
• May 2009
• June 2009
• October 2009
• March 2010

March's Question and Answers

RB: I feel your manager doesn't see you struggling and the communication between you in failing. The reason you feel unsupported is that you have always been a doer and she has come to rely on you getting on with the job, as in the past you have always known what to do and just got on with it but now it is expected. I feel you are not communicating effectively to people at work due to feeling over loaded and I suggest you speak up and tell her you are finding your work load too much and does she have any suggestions. Don't put words in her mouth and only speak of how it affects you. Once she realizes that you need help I feel she will back you up and this will take some of the pressure off.

I also feel you need a bigger picture as you have been there for some time and need a change. There will be a new opportunity available to you in June but in the meantime you need to know where you see yourself in five years and work towards making the changes to get there. You are very good at what you do and could consider some more learning to increase your future potential and earn more.

October's Question and Answers
 

RB: Thank you for your question. I feel that there will be redundancies and may start in September, I feel that they will start cleaning out a few departments and or offer people new positions at less money. I can see a payout and you have good contacts so finding another position does not feel like an issue, it is important that you put yourself first and look after you as worrying about colleagues is nice however will not pay your bills. It is a year of change for you in 2010 and this seems like an ideal time to look at what you really want.
 
You may find your partner and family reactions are fear driven so make sure you have all the facts before you have discussion and know exactly what the offer of redundancy is. You are not alone there have been many people going through this and it is extremely difficult to not take it personally and let it affect your confidence but you will see that there will be many people in the same position. keep checking in with your instinct and ask for as much help as you need.

RB: I can only imagine how difficult this may be for you as you have both worked together at growing your asset base. I feel there is a business involved and this is where he is not wanting to let it go as he feels like it is from all his hard work, and he does not see all the support you gave him. I don’t see a quick resolve but I also don’t feel like you are getting very good legal advice and I suggest going to talk to another lawyer for a second opinion. By doing this you will get confirmation that your lawyers is on the right track and remember you know him more than anyone else, so you need to think when they (lawyer) suggest something think to how he will react to that and then decide to move forward or change tact.
 
Use your knowledge of him and your instinct to make the decisions and then you won’t find it so tiring as this will give you the upper hand. The lawyer does not know him like you do and you don’t have to do it alone make sure you process with someone you trust that has your best interest at heart.

Remember not to give him too much information to when you speak with him as it will keep him guessing which may wear him down a bit faster.

June's Question and Answer
 

I understand your fears of being over whelmed with the thought of taking on more when your life is so full already. You want to be a successful mother, partner and business woman and as many of us know this is not always easy and requires attention to detail and sometimes sacrifice.
You have drive, passion and desire and need to honor yourself and not put your dreams on hold. It is all about the planning and time management making sure you allow plenty of time for your children, partner and house hold, as when your house and family are organized you can achieve so much more also allowing peace of mind without guilt.

My suggestion is that you write a business plan and dedicate hours per week to achieve each task and build your business slowly, work part time using child care or family support to do this. You also need to make time for yourself as so many woman leave themselves till last then wonder why they end up feeling down on their looks, overwhelmed or over emotional. A very good friend of mine taught me to take 20% of my time to always do something for me and this has been invaluable. When I started writing for woman2woman I employed a cleaner as this gave me an extra few hours a week to work on what I love.

Business help... there are so many places to get what you need but my suggestion is you join the chamber of commerce as they have courses, contacts and resources to help you achieve your goals. You may also like to check out Christchurch small business association www.csbec.org.nz or the government business website on www.business.govt.nz it is also good to chat with likeminded people and network for connections.

Your business idea is a great one and I know your will do it well and achieve what you want and more, trust yourself and your instinct but mostly go for it!!

May's Question and Answer

Here is one of the "Ask a Clairvoyant" questions from May, answered by my good friend Maureen Rose, and remember to write in and ask Rosina about business or career for July: Just send an email to talk@pretoriamay.com and three lucky readers will get their question answered.

Yes I feel you and your new partner have a soul connection. It feels to me you both could get a lot of healing from each another. He has a strong need to communicate and to be understood, so please give him enough space to do that with you.

I can feel the excitement and also how afraid you both are. I feel you both will try to go to fast because you both needing reassurance from each another. Please just sit and talk about it. Slow it down and have some fun, please don't make to heavy to soon.

He a very nice man, who I feel is trying to sense of life again. He wants to fall in love but is afraid but with all the communication I can see you both doing then yes I feel this will become a loving long term connection.

If either of you freak and run in the first three months, please just stop and write down your fears and sent to the other person. You might just find writing them down with be enough to make them disappear.

Have fun,

Maureen Rose

April's Questions and Answers

This month my good friend, Shirley Hay answered two questions from our readers and I answered a third, which I elaborated on in our April feature, "Don't believe in everything you hear". My thanks to everyone who wrote in this month, and as usual, I'd love to hear from you if you are having trouble making sense of some element in your life? Write to talk@pretoriamay.com and I will answer three more questions in May. Remember, you may benefit from a personal clairvoyant reading if it is a more private matter, I may be able to help you clear your troubles.

111 stands for new beginnings and fresh ideas. BBB, which is governed by 2, tells you that you'll need to look at this year as a key to connection and change. You are a 28/10 soul, which embodies the need to be responsible for yourself instead of others. This will overcome the fear of change or feelings of being left behind. You are strong enough to make the changes you desire in your life and need to follow your passion. Importantly, don't resist change or give into fear of failing or repeating the past.

This year is about learning new gifts and skills in your job and industry, by communicating your needs clearly to others. The changes you need to make are for the future so you can expand and excel for yourself and the company you works for.

You keep putting everyone else's needs before yours and if you don't want to keep repeating the past then it is time to change this. In May, things should start to come together for you and then in June you will find the right company to expand and grow in and a place that can see your true value.

Everything this year has been unexpected but it is so you can finally start to use your inner guide to step into changes that need to happen to make you expect and attract better life experiences.

We had a very nice response to Ask a Clairvoyant this month, however the third question we chose to answer was too personal to publish online but I have responded privately. Next month Shirley Hay will be responding to your questions, so if you have something that you would like to ask please get it in early.

About Shirley Hay

Shirley Hay is a Numerologist and Clairvoyant who has read and coached many people in the last twenty plus years. Shirley’s  knowledge and explanation of numerology is an incredible art and gift and in fact Shirley is the one who taught me and this is something I have always been grateful for, as it is so rare to be coached and taught privately.

Shirley lives and works from Tauranga and this is your chance to get a new perspective on you, your family or relationship connections. Email talk@pretoriamay.com and three lucky people will have their queries answered by Shirley.

Below are the questions and answers from our readers:

RB - Spiritual: I feel your husband is driven by fear at the moment and this has immobilised him, his negative mind chatter is really bad and everything is being blown out of proportion. He seems out of touch with what’s going on and keeps hiding and not wanting to look at anything. He seems to work a lot but achieve very little as he is reacting to everything except what is really going on.

You cannot fix him and you need to realise this. You need to say less and do more by getting everything up to date (finances and work confirmed) then show him this in black and white, as once he sees the information he will feel more inspired and he will know exactly what to do and the he will move forward again.

I feel that March will be lighter and by June you will see things back on track. Shutting down the business seems like an easy way out because he feels like he is failing as the not knowing is what is making everything feel worse than it really is.

The energy has been hard for everyone and it is hard to keep your self positive all the time and you must stop being so hard on your self. When you work and love in the same relationship energies get very muddily. You need some new personal boundaries i.e. only discuss business at work and book times for meetings together and always have a work agenda, plan the week and the relief will be huge for both of you as home will feel like home.

Remember you in all this and get some support for you from a friend but one who understands or is may be in business too. The more you can discuss and process with them the better. (read my article on women processing)

Practical: Business can be so hard to cope with when you feel like your not making money or worse going backwards. The most important thing you need to know is where the company stands financially and what work you have confirmed, as this makes it easier to make a plan and ask for help. Once you have this information take it to your accountant and ask for advice to trim costs and maybe refinance at a better rate. Prepare a new cash flow and business forecast for the next 12 months….. basically it all felt to over whelming and to big to handle but it is not in reality just unknown.

Take care.

When you are in a situation or have a decision to make you need to do the following. First stop, take a seat if you have to, then breathe and connect to your inner self. Ask your self how do I feel? Once you acknowledge this ask yourself the question.

You will either feel relaxed or tense, if you feel relaxed and settled (warm) then you know the answer is yes and if you feel tense or have a sinking feeling (cold) the answer is no.

The problem people have is they make it too complicated and look for more, when you get an answer with a confusing feeling but you feel the answer is clear this means yes but take it slowly or can it be done another way and this is basic clairvoyance and your spirit guides are showing you options as there may be something better.

The most important thing to developing clairvoyance or psychic ability is “checking in” when you acknowledge your inner self this establishes and stimulates the senses making you more aware. In time you wont have to stop as your inner senses will be more developed and you will use them with even knowing.

Thanks for the walk down memory lane.

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February's Questions and Answers

RB: You are in a new year of change and being in a five personal year can make the mind work overtime and you certainly are doing this. You have not completed 2008 yet and have a little work to do before you can release it completely. I feel you had a big work year in 2008 and your body feels tired and you are reacting more emotional than normal and this feels like it is affecting your nervous system. I feel it will take you a few months to settle and release the old thought processes as you are reacting to the past (trying to fix everyone) and I feel a woman (older woman) is causing you grief and you need to stop reacting to it, as the more you react the more she responds and will make your life difficult. You are taking on other peoples stuff and taking it personally and to avoid more stress you have to remind yourself you cannot fix them they must fix themselves.

You also keep looking after everyone else first and ignoring you and especially your physical needs so to avoid health issues you must listen and look after yourself, you knew in 2007 you had to make some changes but have ignored this. You have learnt bad habits from your mother on this one and I know your family has caused you to worry this last year but sometimes you have to say no.

It is very important that you communicate your feelings and process what is going on for you - woman need to process to find solutions and get confirmation of their next step, so talk to a good friend that you trust and listen to your feelings before making decisions. By processing verbally you will then know what the next step is.

By the time you get to May the old cycle will have completed and as the months pass the problems will dilute and rest assured your year will not be total mayhem. There may be a big change at work and you will have to make a decision about your job in March but the outcome is strong and positive as long as you keep checking your instincts and follow this and not your head you will know what to do.

What you started last year will gather more momentum this year and will not require so much effort. It is also time to take the credit for your hard work and achievement and stop giving the credit to others. 2008 seems all about work and others needs, where is the time and love for you especially in your relationship.

RB: Thank you for your question and as I read it a few times I felt an overwhelming sense of grief. I don't feel the studying is neither the issue nor the new relationship but some residue from your past relationship and old hurts. You have always put your partner and your children first and soaked up what was left after they had finished. When you completed that old relationship your self worth was left broken and your physical confidence low and you have not quite recovered.

This is a year of completion and one where you need to acknowledge the past is done and complete. You don't have to relive anything as you have hurt enough. This year is about gathering good confirmation from friends and loved ones and embracing the new relationship with fresh eyes. It is time to have some fun, take some weekends away and enjoy them, also to get in touch with your inner sensual self and especially enjoy the physical aspect of this new relationship.

Don't make it hard or put this relationship on hold like you have done in the past for your family, work or ex partner. You are a great mum but you are still an individual with needs and it is time to fulfill some of them. One of your children may find it harder than the other but you will always make sure they are well loved and cared for. Give them more confirmation and share how you feel with them and show them some safe boundaries while your relationship establishes. Remember old formed habits can make you repeat the past, change the negative mind chatter to positive affirmation to inspires you and allow yourself to feel loved.

Watch that old partner as he does not like to see you happy and say no to him as he is still treating you like he did before and you respond to keep the peace. Let the past go and he will fall into line, you may need to gather up some courage and remember you have changed. 2010 brings a whole new beginning of 9 years and your guides are asking to you to complete 2009 and let go of unwanted or limiting behaviors and embrace life.

RB: Thank you for your question, however I am unable to answer all of this on line as I needed more information i.e. dates and then it would have been a full reading. You need to give yourself confirmation and you also need confirmation from your medical team as everything feels fine but you need to know and they can show you. I understand the panic and worry but you need to trust yourself and your partner as you are only 40 and 100's and 1000's of women have had healthy happy babies.

You are a family and you and your partner need to show a united front to all the children and show them you are in this together. Your emotions are all over the place and you have lost touch with your inner strength but it is still there and they keep showing me huge doorways ahead of you and you only have to step through them together and ask for more emotional support from your partner.

Talk to a friends or ask for professional help but get support as this will also help anchor you. I often find when you are carrying another soul you connect to them and their emotional connection to you and this can sometimes be unsettling. Don't be so hard on yourself and you also feel physically tired and needs some rest as your running after everyone.
Slow down, keep in touch with your midwife, and gather more information and you will start to settle by April. Read books on emerging families and remember to breathe as you keep holding your breath and this show me you're out of touch with yourself and reacting to your head and the what if's of life..

Trust yourself to will make the right decisions especially over the children as you're the one in control not them and you need to keep affirming that to yourself then they will follow you.

Readings Available on Request

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